A love letter to all the stressed out moms.
Hey momma’s. Let’s chat.
Are you feeling stressed? Overwhelmed? Overworked? Tired? Alone? Isolated? Listen to me and listen now. You are NOT alone. Whether you are a stay at home mom, a working mom, a single mom, a married mom, an empty nester, a new mom, a soon to be mom….it doesn’t matter. At some point in time, we all go through the same shit. We all feel the same feels.
There are going to be days, bad days. There are going to be days, good days. You will have them both, they will ebb & flow. You are going to have times where you want to quit, you want to just run away. There are going to be days where you will be so happy and full of love you will think your heart is going to explode.
I have been a mom for over 22 years now. It’s the greatest thing I’ve ever done in my life. I have two amazingly beautiful children. Who have grown into wonderful human beings. I devoted my entire life to them, they were my everything. So what do you do when they are 17 & 22 and don’t need you as much anymore? That’s me. That is my current stage of motherhood. I have started to make myself a priority and ask “what do you want to do” which has brought me to my blog, my coaching business and my aromatherapy business.
Everyone is at different stages. We go through them all. For some, certain stages are harder than others. But we all experience the struggles and the triumphs.
Here is what I want you to know and remember, regardless of the stage you are currently experiencing.
Your babies love you. You are their everything. It doesn’t matter if you didn’t get around to cleaning the house today. If you ordered a pizza or got McDonalds instead of making dinner. Your life doesn’t need to be Pinterest perfect for you to give your kids the perfect life. They are not going to remember that you ate fast food, that you didn’t have a perfectly cleaned or decorated house, that you bought cookies at the store for school instead of baking them. It doesn’t matter!!!
You do your very best for them. You love them. You provide for them to the best of your abilities. You give them everything that you can. That will be enough. They will remember your time with them, your love for them. That is what is important.
When you are having a bad day or you are feeling that “mom guilt” try to remember this. I have also found that your own self-care and self-worth are crucial to your role as a mother and human being. I speak from experience here my friends. For the majority of my motherhood stages, I didn’t care for me. I didn’t worry about self-care. I only worried about giving my all to my family. It took awhile but it caught up to me. It lead to a season of depression and anxiety. It lead to overwhelm and fatigue. I just let myself get so worn down. I just took and took from my cup and never ever replenished it. It will catch up to you my friends, even if it takes years. And here is what I’ve learned from my own experience. I would of been able to give to my family even more as a fulfilled mom who had self-love. I am now working in a bit of reverse to care for myself. I’m teaching my daughter who is now almost 17 the importance of it as a woman. I want her to grow up to be the best mom she can be and that means understanding that as a woman you need to make yourself a priority. It’s not selfish. Here me again – it’s NOT selfish to make yourself a priority and to put your own care at the top of your list. If you are fulfilled, happy, healthy, you will have so much more to give to your family.
Check out my self-care post – Aromatherapy for Self-Care or Journaling for Self-Care for a few ideas that you can use to help out on down days. Try journaling. Mediating. Taking a walk outside or just sitting outside. Call a friend. Join a support group – either local or a Facebook group. Join my Facebook group, it’s a safe space for women/mothers to support one an