This blog post is not meant to judge you or anyone.
Take note that I used to have a very low self-confidence. I was a chronic people-pleaser - so I kinda know what it feels like and what it looks like to vibe in lack of self-worth!
I am writing this blog post to hopefully help you open your eyes.
It is truly in looking at our own selves and not pointing fingers that we grow exponentially!
So ... here we go.
First Subtle Sign of Low Confidence
You love talking about problems!
My observation is that women are mostly guilty of this.
You’re obsessed about talking problems because... *drumroll*
That's how you get people’s attention!
When you talk about your dramatic and chaotic life, your friends listen to you attentively and that’s how you feel “interesting.” That’s how you feel like the star of your own movie.
Wouldn't it be nice if they notice you because of your contributions? My friend, there are better ways to captivate people’s attention. Drop the drama. Do the inner work!
Second Subtle Sign of Low Confidence
You love judging people!
You really like noticing what’s wrong with them, what’s not right in their fashion style, what’s imperfect about their life, etc.
Heck! You even know what they did last summer and you’re the only person who hasn't moved on from the fact that they failed their Calculus class 10 years ago.
And for what?
Because when you judge them, you get to be the better person!
You get to have the “right” to hate on them and justify your envy against them. Yes, subconsciously, when we judge someone, we are envious of them.
We are envious that they are free to be who they are and we can’t give that same freedom to ourselves.
Third Subtle Sign of Low Confidence
You always choose feelings of resentment on a subconscious level.
How and why?
When somebody asks for a favor and you feel obliged to say YES even if you don’t want to.
On a subconscious level, you’d rather feel resentful instead of guilty.
You can’t stand the feelings of guilt when you turn down a request.
So you'd rather do it - betray yourself in the process - and end up feeling resentful towards that person.
This is a common problem of people who have low-vibe confidence.
Their version of confidence is based on how other people see them. And this means they want other people to see them as the “good person.”
You don’t have to choose between resentment and guilt.
None of those feelings are necessary. Just learn to say NO. It’s as simple as that.
Confidence is trusting that people will still love you even if you don’t overextend yourself.
Do any of these subtle signs resonate with you?
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