Why do we become people-pleasers?

𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧t 𝐭𝐨 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞-𝐩𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐬𝐞. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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When you are less interested in your own needs than you are of others, you are a people-pleaser. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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When you put the needs of others above your own, you are a people-pleaser. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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Here's a secret for you.....this is not what you were meant to do. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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I mean, helping others, giving pleasure to others, sure, we are here for it. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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BUT not above your own needs. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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The real question is WHY. Why do we become people-pleasers? ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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I've uncovered 6 basic reasons: ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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*Survival⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

*Coping⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

*Self-Avoidance⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

*Lack of Self-Esteem⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

*No Confidence⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

*Toxic Relationships ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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It has LESS to do with others and EVERYTHING to do with ourselves. ⁣⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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When you can learn to LOVE yourself, when you can find your WORTH and VALUE, you will no longer need to use People-Pleasing to fill the void.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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Are you ready to learn how to stop pleasing everyone else and shift the focus back to you? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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To learn to value yourself so that what you give to others is more valuable to them? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

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To stop feeling like your drowning in overwhelm and finally love yourself and your life? ⠀

You can do it. I did it and I put in a solid 40 years of being a people-pleaser!

My book is coming out later this month and it's 100% about becoming a "recovering" people-pleaser. Get on the waitlist so you know when it's available.

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